I, Norman Oetker, have taken in part, and have modified the below paragraph from a random Google search on the subject,
“Victims and their False Securities”.
“Blame”, “HmongNews.org”, Protestant Christian Missionaries, Norman and Selma Oetker, Selma’s Pulpit, “The Light Amidst the Hmong”, Hmong, UCLE, Pahawh, RPA., Saint Charles Missouri US.,NaPaPaek Thailand,
It’s not my intention to claim that I’ve written this below, I’ve modified this statement considerably. I give this disclaimer because I choose not to give the original author name or web address because I do not agree with this author uninformed views generally.
The below paragraph with many additions and deletions captures my ideal, that I’m trying to convey of the present day Hmong who are in this by CHOICE , in the endless loop of victimization.
Hmong the Victim
Beliefs form as the result of continual intense emotional experiences during childhood.
You cannot think away or eliminate them with your conscious mind.
Intense emotional experiences are wired into the central nervous system and operates through the autonomic nervous system and the brain, they can easily be eliminated by the correct choice of willful actions.
Here are some of the core beliefs that are characteristic of people with victim consciousness:
1. I am not okay, neither are you and it’s someone’s fault.
2. Someone has done something bad to me, they are responsible for the lack of peace and happiness in my life.
3. I wouldn’t be having all of these uncomfortable feelings if only XXXXX would stop doing what they are doing.
4. Most of my problems are cause by things outside of my control.
5. The world is a big, scary place and I cannot change things.
6. The whole world is against me and is trying to keep me down.
7. It is my destiny to be crushed and sacrificed when the chips are down.
8. I did everything for so and so and they just took advantage of me.
9. I wish something outside of me were different so that I could feel better.
10. If I’d listened to what others said, I would have been talked out of my own beliefs and views.
11. Every time I get close to someone, he or she, sees how unlovable I am and reject me.
12. I can’t listen to other people’s feelings because it may stir up my own.
13. If people get to know me they will see how weak I am and lose respect for me.
14. If I open up to someone, he or she, will abandon me and I may die.
15. If I cry, I will never be able to stop.
16. If I get angry, I might kill someone.
17. If I expressed my pain, it will be so much that I might go crazy or die.
18. If I was rejected, I do not know what would happen to me.
While victim consciousness is part of virtually all social structures, it’s
learned first in families!!
What is the answer? How do you stop being a victim? Who do I believe? In all likelihood you in your desire to understand this will go to all sorts of people, friends, church, teachers etc.
You’ll hear many different opinions, yet, the very simple truth and freedom is always before you!
You know, and yet, you refuse!
Why because you like being the victim!
I hope your continue to look and read the HmongNews.Org for your answer.
July 2014 Saint Charles Missouri
Protestant Christian Missionary Norman Oetker
Norman Oetker Protestant Christian Missionary served in: US., Thailand, Reynosa Mexico, and now in Saint Charles Missouri