Mother and Father, A Visit from Their Grave


normanBelow the center tree in this photo

rests my mom and dad.

29 August 2015,

I was driving to another location, and was impressed to stop and visit my mom and pops’ cemetery.

I stood there looking down at the copper inscribed plates, that my mom and dad had selected to be used with their names, births, and death dates of 1992, 2011.

Suddenly, as a summer breeze blows and cools on these hot summer days, I was overcome with grief.

I longed to just talk with them both.

My tears came flooding down my face.

Strangely, as a child longs for the parent’s love, comfort, encouragement, or just their presence. I too, even at the soon to be 70 years of age, was as a child again 9 or 10 years old, enjoying the comforts of the soothing calmness, that only a mom or dad can bring to their child.

I found my self confessing to them; yet, I had nothing to really confess about.

It was so comforting to be like a child again emotionally, as I stood staring down upon their resting place. Standing there, a long silhouette on this day for there were no others.

In childish ways  remembering how your mom could listen and really not say much about what to do or of how to handle the situation, it was their presence, knowing they had only good for you.

And then, as the summer breeze had blew, and caused the tree branches to sway, all was quiet again.

The childhood thoughts were gone.

The cemetery’s peace, quietness, and tranquility returned.

When I returned to the car, bowing my head I prayed.

I was impressed with this one scene in my mind.

For the past 40 years I’ve been a Protestant Christian Missionary.

There have been many spiritual ups and downs through life,

as all truly spiritually born again believers of our

Lord Jesus the Christ can attest too.

Furthermore, a scene flashed before my minds eye.

It was of me walking on a very narrow path,

on one side was darkness, and the other light.

The thoughts were of how easy it is to walk within the spiritual darkness and then to not know where one is going.

Or to stay in the light,  knowing one’s life spiritual directions.  

Final thoughts: If I wanted and so desired, I could reenter the religions of the world, and be one of the many walking in the spiritual darkness.


Salt and Light
(Philippians 2:12-18)

13 You are the salt of the earth: but if the salt have lost his flavor, with which shall it be salted? it is thereafter good for nothing, but to be cast out, and to be trodden under foot of men.

14 You are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid. 15 Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it gives light to all that are in the house. 16 Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven

Memorial Garden Cemetery, Saint Charles Missouri U.S.
Memorial Garden Cemetery, Saint Charles Missouri U.S.

August 2015, Jesus says today…. Matthew 10:33 KJV – 33 But whosoever shall deny me before men, him will I also deny before my Father which is in heaven.,….

July, 2015 Norman and Selma Oetker with Norman's daughter Lydia. Saint Charles Missouri U.S. at our home.
July, 2015 Norman and Selma Oetker with Norman’s daughter Lydia. Saint Charles Missouri U.S. at our home.

Protestant Christian Missionaries

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Saint Charles Missouri U.S.,

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